Things Americans Do That Totally Confuse People In Other Countries

When was the last time you had a drink without ice in it? If you're an American, it's probably been a while. We love ice. We take our liquor on the rocks, we ice our coffee and our tea, and we fill our fountain drinks to bursting before adding a dash of soda. If a waiter brought us water with no ice in it we'd wonder what kind of apocalypse was happening in the kitchen.

Not so in the rest of the world, especially Europe. If you've been abroad you probably noticed that getting ice in a drink is the exception, not the rule. According to Smithsonian magazine, this might be because Europeans see ice as taking up precious room that could be filled with the liquid you're actually paying for. (Free refills are rare in Europe, and per the BBC, France has even banned them in the battle to stop people getting fat.)

But history-of-drinking writer Henry Jeffreys suggests a more historical explanation. Before refrigeration, ice was a luxury item in Europe. Since it was so hard to keep ice frozen, only the rich had access to it. But it was much easier to get ice in America, where it was literally harvested from lakes and kept cool in special boxes. Over time, Americans got used to having ice in their drinks, while Europeans continued to drink their tepid liquids, a trend that still exists today.

If you venture outside in America today, chances are you'll have numerous conversations, even if you're just getting groceries. That's because we're expected to chat with anyone we come into contact with. "How's your day going?" "Did you find everything all right?" "I love your top." Americans are the world champions of small talk.

This can be anything from jarring to insulting for people from other countries. According to The Bonjour Effect: The Secret Codes of French Conversation Revealed as reported by Quartz, the French might shut down a conversation with you if you ask what they do for a living. They don't like being fit into a box like that, defined by what they do. In the New Yorker, Karan Mahajan, who's originally from India, says it took her over a decade to master the art of American small talk. In her home country, she says, interacting with shopkeepers is about your transaction and nothing else. You aren't supposed to act like you're friends with them.

According to the Harvard Business Review, getting the hang of small talk is especially important for foreigners in corporate settings, where being able to chat casually with your superiors can be good for your work prospects. And you thought you got that promotion because you were good at your job.

Tipping is ingrained in Americans from a very young age. We know that it's the polite and correct thing to do, and it's so expected that most waitstaff are paid less than the minimum wage on the assumption they will get lots of tips to make up for it. Not tipping when it's expected is almost unheard of and makes a very clear point: either you're a terribly cheap person or the waiter literally stuck his face in your soup.

To foreigners, tipping can be an absolute minefield. Just think about how complicated the process is when you break it all down. Some service staff you tip, others you don't. Some get 15-20 percent, some just need a couple bucks. BBC America had to tell its readers that tipping wasn't actually legally required, even though it also said that if you don't tip you might get chased down the street by a waiter wanting to know what's up. It also explained the secret code all Americans know of tipping 10 percent or less to say the service was terrible. The Australian site Traveller gives its readers a helpful and very detailed breakdown of who to tip and how much. When in doubt, if you come from a non-tipping culture and are visiting America, just throw money at anyone who (politely) talks to you.

Americans are used to the idea that the price you see on a tag is not going to be what you end up paying. We just prepare to hand over a little more money than we see on the sales floor, and most people don't bother calculating things out later to make sure the tax was correct.

It's crazy when you think about it. We have state sales taxes but then cities and counties can add more to that, which means the amount you pay for something that has a tag price of $9.99 can vary from one store to another one close by. Then there are special rules for things that don't have added tax in some places, like alcohol or groceries or even clothes. Try explaining all that to a foreigner who is used to having their taxes included in the price and paying exactly what it says on the tag. TripAdvisor spends hundreds of words trying to make all this clear to its readers. Maybe it's just a good idea to hand over your wallet at the counter and hope the cashier is honest — it's not that different than what everyone else does.

Did you know Donald Trump is already campaigning for the 2020 election? The rallies he attends are paid for by his reelection campaign, meaning the race for the White House began a month after he took office. Even for America that's pretty crazy, but we're used to our elections lasting years at a time and costing more than the GDP of some nations.

The cost and length of American elections are absolutely obscene when you look at other countries. In 2012, the cost of all federal U.S. elections (the presidency and Congress) was $5.8 billion. Meanwhile, the 2010 British elections cost a mere $49 million, which, according to the BBC, means we spent 120 times as much total and 23 times as much per person. In the U.S., candidates campaign for years, while the Washington Diplomat reports that the country with the next-longest campaigns is Germany, at a measly 114 days. According to the CBC, the longest campaign in Canadian history lasted less than 11 weeks and that was way back in 1926. No wonder Canadians are so polite: they have so many fewer family dinners to yell about politics.

If you're a straight American male, you probably don't spend a lot of time affectionately touching your straight American male friends. Sure, there are exceptions, like when there's alcohol involved or when you pat them on the butt while playing sports. But in general, heterosexual male contact in America is avoided. And according to the Daily Beast, yeah, it's probably because of homophobia.

It didn't used to be like that in the U.S. Photos from the 1800s show plenty of male-on-male affection. Men used to share beds with their friends regularly. But things changed. When President George W. Bush was pictured holding hands with Saudi Crown Prince Abdullah, a bunch of average guys on the street were totally weirded out. The New York Times even ran an article in response to the incident, explaining that men holding hands in friendship in the Arab world was normal, with no romantic connotations. People from India wouldn't have been shocked either, since it's just as common for guys to hold hands there. A writer for South Africa's Mail & Guardian lamented that Africans were becoming more Westernized and saw dudes holding hands as "gay," while calling for the return to a time when it was typical to see, for example, Nelson Mandela intertwining his fingers with those of other African leaders.

And it goes even further. The Denver Post points out that in areas of Europe, the Middle East, Africa, and South America, men greeting each other with a kiss or four on the cheek is expected and polite.

The U.S. infamously doesn't use the metric system when it comes to measurement. We're very happy having completely illogical conversions like 16 ounces to a pound, 5,280 feet to a mile, and 8 pints to a gallon. Multiplying by 10 is too complicated for our brains. But what you might not realize is just how weird it is we still use this system. Imperial isn't just uncommon worldwide, it's basically unheard of.

According to ZME Science, besides America, only two other countries use imperial on a wide scale: Myanmar and Liberia. But Myanmar is in the process of switching to metric, so soon it will just be the U.S. and one African country with fewer than 5 million people still holding on to the old ways.

We could have adopted metric almost from the beginning. Measuring things accurately used to be extremely difficult, to the point it was considered so important that the power of Congress to "fix the Standard of Weights and Measures" was included in the Constitution. Metric was invented in 1670 but only caught on after the French Revolution in 1789, when France adopted it. Thomas Jefferson, who loved France, thought the U.S. should get in on it too. But France didn't invite an American representative to come learn about the new system, and the snub meant the U.S. gave up on the idea for almost two centuries. Then in 1975, Congress said America would switch to metric within 10 years. But the public resisted, and it never happened.

If you grew up in America, you probably railed against the injustice of the drinking age at some point in your teens. College is so inconvenient when you have to befriend someone older to buy your booze for three years. And when it comes to legal drinking ages, America is absurdly strict compared to most of the rest of the world.

According to Supercall, 21 is pretty much the oldest you have to be to drink anywhere. (This doesn't include about a dozen predominantly Muslim countries where drinking is banned altogether.) Of the places that do let you drink eventually, no country makes you wait longer than 21. And of the handful of countries that do set the bar that high, almost all of them are also Muslim-majority. More than 65 percent of countries let people drink at or before 18. In Antigua and Barbuda, a 10-year-old can legally have a beer next to you at a bar. Seventeen countries have no age limit at all.

You'd think our harsh restriction would mean we are exceptionally responsible with our imbibing in the U.S. But the opposite is true, according to Mic. America has the worst rate of binge drinking in the world, and 90 percent of all alcohol consumed by the underage is done so in a binge drinking session. When it's something illicit, when you haven't been brought up to sip a glass of wine at dinner, alcohol becomes something you need to drink in huge amounts, quickly.

There are plenty of places where holding the door open for a stranger behind you is considered polite, but it isn't something done in many Asian countries. So visitors who come to the U.S. from places like China and Japan may suddenly find themselves adjusting to this new way of being well-mannered.

The Japanese blogger Madame Riri (via Sora News 24) says that while people in her country are usually considered exceptionally polite, they don't have the "odd door-holding culture" of Westerners. She says when she holds the door for a stranger in Japan, she's "usually met with a grateful, but slightly bemused smile."

Real Clear explains the difference is down to an alternate take on politeness. According to them, in Asia, "it's assumed that most would prefer to walk at their own speed rather than walking fast to reach the door being opened for them." Any American who has found themselves speeding up to avoid an awkward door-holding situation can definitely understand that way of thinking.

One Chinese woman who spent four years in the US wrote in Freely Magazine that she got reverse culture shock when she finally returned home, where she suddenly saw the lack of door holding as rude. But when she tried to hold the door for a mother and child, a whole line of people followed, blocking her way and not saying thank you. She concluded because of the "large population and busy lifestyle, holding doors for the next person seems impossible in China."