The Untold Truth Of Yoko Ono

Yoko Ono is an intriguing public figure who has received plenty of love, admiration, criticism over the years. She first received mainstream attention when she tied the knot with the Beatles' beloved frontman, John Lennon (via Biography.) As a result of the marriage, Ono had to deal with plenty of media attention for several years. 

She is many things at once: an artist, a musician, a performer, a dreamer, and more. One of her most notable characteristics is that she's original and doesn't hesitate to walk away from conventional things even if she has to deal with criticism for her unconventional music, performance art, and other artistic ventures.

Ono is unusual in more ways than one. She told Interview Magazine that she doesn't even think that she is strictly an artist, saying, "I don't particularly consider myself just an artist. I'm a woman — I'm a human being — and there are a lot of situations that covers." She also spoke about how she's perceived by the public, and how she learned to deal with difficult situations after Lennon's death. She explained,"...I was kind of alone. I wasn't valued by people ... and I kind of like myself for being the one who survived regardless."

There's more to Yoko Ono than her marriage to John Lennon and her polarizing art. This is the untold truth of Yoko Ono.

Things got turned upside down for Yoko Ono and her family during World War II. According to Vulture, the war created a physical divide between her family members. Things got especially nasty when Ono, her mom, and her siblings had to seek shelter in a bunker after the 1945 bombings in Tokyo. With food shortages, they had to barter for something to eat, and sometimes went hungry. According to the Rolling Stone, Ono and her family knew people who starved or died after trying to consume poisonous mushrooms during the war. She later said, "I remember being hungry and I know it's so difficult to just be hungry." When she didn't have anything to eat, she told other children around her that she simply wasn't hungry.

Meanwhile, Ono's dad was captured as a prisoner of war and his family had no idea where he was for nearly a year. Even after the conflict ended, Ono felt confused by the cultural context. She said, "I remember being in film theaters where the baddies were always Asian. When the lights went up, I thought, 'Am I [a baddie too]?'"

As highlighted in the book, "Yoko Ono: Collector of Skies," Yoko Ono was pretty different from her classmates in school. For one, she didn't mind asking questions and being outspoken. Japanese society in general expected kids to be obedient in front of their elders. Ono was probably somewhat influenced by the time she spent in the U.S. as a child, where she was exposed to a different way of living. However, this didn't do much for her popularity. Ono is quoted as saying, "I was terribly lonely. At school ... I didn't have any friends." 

At one point, Ono's mom decided to send her to a rural school, where she and her sibling were subjected to bullying for being city kids. Her sibling dropped out, but Ono stayed resilient, showing up for her classes every day.

Even later in life, when she was living in New York, she felt like she was too different from the rest of her family. At the same time, she reports going through a transition that allowed her to accept that being different wasn't really "a bad thing" and that it was OK to be herself.

According to Stanford News, Yoko Ono tried to take her own life in the 1960s. She was struggling and felt like her work wasn't getting the attention it deserved. Her worried family members sent her to a mental health clinic, where they hoped she would be able to recover. Per "Yoko Ono: Collector of Skies," she was feeling far too overwhelmed at the time and wasn't sure how to cope with her feelings. She later said, "There was much emotional turmoil in my life ... and I felt depressed. At that point, being taken care of in any form seemed a glorious option."

At the clinic, she was visited by jazz musician Anthony Cox, a man who somehow knew exactly how to help her feel better about herself. The two kept in touch after Ono left the clinic. Eventually, Ono fell in love with Cox and they later married. Ono and her first husband, Toshi Ichiyanagi, remained friends despite their divorce.

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While Yoko Ono had been passionate about music for a very long time, it took a long time for her to get any kind of attention for her work. For many years, her performance art and unconventional musical style was subject to "mockery, incomprehension and even rage," as described by the Guardian.

But, according to another article by the Guardian, she was fairly confident about her work despite not receiving much validation. She particularly enjoyed working with her late husband, John Lennon, and feels grateful whenever anyone pays a tribute to the songs she created with the Beatles' frontman. Ono said, "The first albums I made with John, 'Two Virgins' and 'Life With the Lions,' we called them 'Unfinished Music,' and I think that idea has developed into something: you have a certain artistic attempt and then you openly involve other people."

Over the years, Ono experimented with her work and tried more conventional forms of music too. She noticed that many people didn't hesitate to use harsh words while speaking about her songs. She said that fortunately, she didn't get affected because her dad was such a strict musician himself. In later years, Ono's music found a fan following of its own and she has worked with mainstream artists like Lady Gaga. In response, Ono simply said, "It's my arrogance, but I thought it [her music] was beautiful all along."

Per the New Yorker, Yoko Ono lived through several miscarriages. According to an Uncut piece, one of these experiences inspired the John Lennon and Yoko Ono album "Life With the Lions." 

In the late 1960s, Ono had been taken to the hospital due to a possible miscarriage. Her husband stayed by her side and made music, expressing his feelings through the songs that he wrote. These tunes went on to become "Life With the Lions." The pregnancy ended in miscarriage, and the couple ensured that their son, John Ono Lennon II had a private burial. Around this time, Lennon plead guilty to possession of cannabis — although the couple said that the drugs were planted — and his solicitor argued that the stress of the police raid had contributed to Ono's miscarriage. 

In 1975, at the age of 42 and after three miscarriages, Ono gave birth to Sean Lennon. "I feel higher than the Empire State Building," Lennon stated, expressing his joy at the birth of his second son.

Perhaps unsurprisingly, Yoko Ono isn't as strong as she used to be. Now in her late 80s, she needs more support, and, according to Cheatsheet, there have been some reports that she requires constant care at home. The artist and musician has also been spotted using a wheelchair on several occasions in recent years. 

She doesn't open much about her health, but at an awards ceremony in 2017, Ono said, "Thank you, thank you, thank you, I've learned so much from having this illness. I'm thankful I went through that." However, she didn't share more details of what illness she suffers from. Some have speculated that she had a stroke, but in 2016, her son dismissed that report via Twitter.

In 2020, Elliot Mintz, a friend of Ono's who acts as her spokesperson, said that the artist's spirit remained as lively as ever. "She has definitely slowed down, like anyone at that age. But she is as sharp as she once was."