The Untold Truth Of Tony Bennett

If you want to get good at something, you've got to do that thing a lot. ABC News reports by the time he was 10 years old in 1936, the person born Anthony Benedetto was already singing for crowds, including at the opening of the Triborough Bridge in New York City. At the age of 16, he dropped out of school to earn money for his family, and he naturally pursued what he was good at: singing. Benedetto landed a job as a singing waiter in a Queens, New York, restaurant. Interrupted briefly by a stint in the military during World War II, Benedetto returned to the States and performed at any place that would have him. 

One day in 1949, the legendary Broadway performer Pearl Bailey heard Bennett sing at an audition, and asked him to be her opening act for a run of shows in Greenwich Village. Bob Hope, arguably the most famous and popular entertainer of the day, happened to be in the house one night and asked him to come perform in his show, too. But he had a request: Drop the "Joe Bari" moniker. Hope asked Benedetto to tell him his real name, and quipped that it was "too long for the marquee." So, he anglicized (and shortened) the singer's real name, Anthony Benedetto, to Tony Bennett. A star was born. 

In November 1944, 18-year-old Tony Bennett got his draft papers and was shipped out for army training at Fort Robinson in Arkansas. Almost immediately, Bennett realized that military life was not for him. "They treated us like animals. I began to have a really hard time with the whole military philosophy," he wrote in his autobiography, "The Good Life." "From top to bottom, it went against every single thing I believed in." Even worse than the training exercises he said were designed to "brutalize us and break our spirit": the racism. "Our sergeant was an old-fashioned southern bigot, and he had it in for me right from the start because I was an Italian from New York City," he wrote, adding it was "just as bad for other ethnic groups," particularly African-American and Jewish soldiers.

Bennett found himself stationed in Germany during the waning days of the war. Along with the rest of the 255th Regiment, Bennett captured a bunch of Nazi SS soldiers. The division's final mission: liberate a concentration camp. "I'll never forget the desperate faces and empty stares of the prisoners," Bennett said. "They had been brutalized for so long that at first, they couldn't believe that we were there to help them and not to kill them." His wartime experiences left Bennett anti-war for life. "The first time I saw a dead German, that's when I became a pacifist," he said on "The Howard Stern Show" (via ABC News).

Around 1959 or 1960, songwriters George Cory Jr. and Douglass Cross ran into Bennett's pianist, Ralph Sharon, in New York, and gave him the sheet music for several new songs, including "I Left My Heart in San Francisco." Sharon didn't think much about them and tossed the papers into his shirt drawer ... where they sat for nearly two years. While packing for a tour with Bennett in 1961, he came across that sheet music and noticed "I Left My Heart in San Francisco." After a show in Arkansas one evening, Sharon played the song at a piano in a hotel bar, and Bennett loved it. Not too long after, the tour took Bennett and Sharon to San Francisco, where they performed the instant classic — and Bennett's signature song — for the first time at the Venetian Room in the Fairmont Hotel just before Christmas. 

Of course, they liked it in San Francisco, but getting the song to a wider audience had some hurdles. Columbia Records placed Bennett's recording as the B-side of the single "Once Upon a Time." DJs around the country disagreed and played the supposedly lesser B-side instead. (It also helped that he sang it on "The Tonight Show" — during Johnny Carson's first night as host no less.)

There's no shame in keeping up with the times. Countless major acts have stayed relevant — or at least tried to — by cutting some records in whatever new musical trend develops. For example, Frank Sinatra released a disco song and Paul McCartney gave '80s-style synth-pop a try. Tony Bennett, however, mostly stood firm in his genre — for more than 60 years, he sweetly crooned jazz standards and entries in the Great American songbook. He didn't care much for rock n' roll and its offshoots; he once said that the Rolling Stones promoted "juvenile delinquency." Bennett tried to keep up with the hip young kids once — and only once — and it didn't go well.

In 1967, he covered Stevie Wonder's smooth and jazzy "For Once in My Life" at the behest of Columbia Records' new president, Clive Davis, who wanted to bring old crooners like Bennett into the new age. Bennett thus reluctantly recorded an album in 1970 called "Tony Sings the Great Hits of Today!" The cover featured Bennett rocking some groovy threads, and the record inside featured Bennett's take on Wonder's "My Cherie Amour" and The Beatles' "Something" and "Eleanor Rigby." The album didn't sell well, and neither did a hastily released follow-up "Tony Bennett's Something." In 1972, Columbia dropped Bennett after two decades with the label.

While Tony Bennett allegedly delved into the world of organized crime early in his career, he found himself embroiled in mob drama again in 1979. In 2012, David Evanier, author of the Bennett biography "All the Things You Are: The Life of Tony Bennett," sent the New York Daily News a story about his subject that he'd learned of too late to include in his book. 

According to a "reliable associate" of Bennett's, back in 1979, the singer was performing a residency at the Sahara Hotel and Casino in Las Vegas. Recently separated from his second wife, Sandra Grant, and at a personal low — "drugged up and contemplating suicide," said Evanier — Bennett started dating a woman who was already spoken for. She happened to be the girlfriend of Anthony Spilotro, a Vegas mobster who reportedly inspired the violent character portrayed by Joe Pesci in the 1995 movie "Casino." Evanier said that when Spilotro found out that Bennett was stepping out with his girlfriend, he "hammered Tony over the head with a phone book, laying him out on the floor." It wasn't too long after this event, Evanier said, when Bennett checked into rehab.

A survey of Tony Bennett's romantic history is almost as long and involved as his discography. In 1952, he married Patricia Beach, the mother of his two sons (one of whom, Danny, is his manager). She filed for divorce in 1969, after Bennett allegedly cheated with actress Sandra Grant, whom the singer married and helped raise two daughters. That relationship lasted until 1979, and Bennett wouldn't marry for a third time until 2007, saying I do to Susan Crow, a woman much younger than the singer. How young? About 40 years younger. Hey, love is love, but the story gets pretty weird.

According to Bennett's book "Just Getting Started" (via Page Six) they first met decades earlier. At age 19, Crow was the president of Bennett's Bay Area fan club, and "she put in a request to say hello backstage after the show." Bennett wrote that he was touched "that someone of her age was so devoted to my music." Crow got that backstage pass, and a little bit more, as Bennett "asked her to be my date for the evening."

That's kind of cute, but like we said, the story gets weird. Crow's parents were big Bennett fans, too, and in 1966, they caught one of his concerts in San Francisco. Bennett posed for a picture with the Crows, and Marion Crow happened to be pregnant at the time ... with Susan.

Tony Bennett's struggles with drug addiction left him near death in the 1970s, and he worked hard to get sober. But his experiences with drugs didn't leave him hardened as to their wider use in society. In 2012, Bennett was at a pre-Grammy party when news of Whitney Houston's death from drowning, with drugs being a complicating factor. Coming soon after the deaths of Michael Jackson and Amy Winehouse, Houston's death moved Bennett to speak. "I'd like to have every gentleman and lady in this room commit themselves to get our government to legalize drugs," he asked his fellow attendees (per Politico), noting that such a policy would at least put access to dangerous drugs in the hands of doctors rather than drug dealers.

Bennett faced some criticism for his remarks, but also support from Neill Franklin and Katharine Celentano, a former police officer and rehab attendee respectively, who took to The Wrap to defend a broad legalization policy (via Reuters). They argued that the prohibition of some substances created an artificial stigma against the recovery process. It was also noted that in much of Europe, drugs are more a matter of health than crime, but that no country in the Eurozone appeared willing to move towards full legalization and regulation before the U.S. did.

If you or anyone you know needs help with addiction issues, help is available. Visit the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website or contact SAMHSA's National Helpline at 1-800-662-HELP (4357).

Tony Bennett kept busy throughout the 2010s, carrying out touring concerts and striking up a friendship and collaboration with Lady Gaga. But in 2017, Bennett was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. The bad news was initially kept private, and Bennett insisted on keeping up his performing. But by 2021, though his voice and musical recall were still strong, his physical condition at 95 couldn't endure his performing schedule anymore. That year, Bennett made public that he had Alzheimer's, and his son Danny announced that there would be no more concerts. "This was a hard decision for us to make, as he is a capable performer," Danny told Variety. "This is, however, doctor's orders."

Danny added that his father would be doing "other things," though he didn't elaborate on what those might be. The family didn't issue permission for a post-retirement use of Bennett's image in an episode of "The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel," though there were no hurt feelings. A year after retirement, Danny shared that his father still rehearsed three times a week. "That's how you do it," said Danny (per Variety). "It's like "How do you get to Carnegie Hall, right? Practice.'"